Wednesday, April 11, 2007
It's extremely rare to have a friend who understands you.
How do you tell when you are understood, or when you are fooling yourself? Though that is not my main worry...exams are in 12 days :s
But I was just thinking that most of the time, anything you do is based on your judgement of a situation, and that may be based on seriously flawed interpretations of information.
I read somewhere that a piece of data in itself is rarely worth much in itself. Unless you have a context to put it to, any conclusions you make from it won't be worth much.
And when you're making a judgement on someone else's actions, then you are making sweeping assumptions on the circumstances surrounding that decision.
I'm a J. I judge. Doesn't mean I have the right to, just means its part of my nature. I do my best to clear my eyes of prejudice - or make sure that my comment is qualified so that if it is interpreted it will not be taken as gospel truth, or as my full opinion.
When we post on the internet, we speak freely because of the relative anonymity. I find that in general I'm fine with strangers posting comments if they want (they don't do it very often so I don't have to panic) and I'm always open to making new friends. If someone wants to know who I am, I don't mind telling them. If someone is going to hang me, though, I really like knowing the reason why.
So if someone tells me I'm a bit full of myself, I'm okay. If they tell me I can't spell at all, they're liars. If they tell me they hate me, and I have to idea who they are - then I freak out.
Sorry, I'm rambling.
Anyway. Everyone makes assumptions to help them to deal with the flood of information that comes in. I remember learning something to that effect in MNO1001. It is not a bad thing if you are aware of them and try to deal with them such that you minimise the effect on your perception and judgement.
And I guess everyone needs to have someone to make the evil villian in their lives. If they want to be the hero of the story - and who wants to be a supporting actor in your own life? (This is assuming that movies and novels are a bit like real life - a bunch are really good, and don't need the ordinary tools to be interesting, and all the rest just play it safe - have love, cute people, and foes and friends...)
So I guess its okay if I'm being used that way by someone else (I am not saying I am or am not! I'm just writing down my thoughts.)
I just can't help wondering about that. Am I a villain archetype? Because I really do not want to be evil and would like to change if I am... quiz said I should look out for stuff to improve. But I need concrete goals. So don't just tell me to quit being a *cough* piece of crap, because I can't change when I don't know what makes me crap.
(Most people think I'm pretty okay though. I'm generally one of the buddies or just an extra. But there's always sth to be improved, right?)
Love,
Eve.
How do you tell when you are understood, or when you are fooling yourself? Though that is not my main worry...exams are in 12 days :sBut I was just thinking that most of the time, anything you do is based on your judgement of a situation, and that may be based on seriously flawed interpretations of information.
I read somewhere that a piece of data in itself is rarely worth much in itself. Unless you have a context to put it to, any conclusions you make from it won't be worth much.
And when you're making a judgement on someone else's actions, then you are making sweeping assumptions on the circumstances surrounding that decision.
I'm a J. I judge. Doesn't mean I have the right to, just means its part of my nature. I do my best to clear my eyes of prejudice - or make sure that my comment is qualified so that if it is interpreted it will not be taken as gospel truth, or as my full opinion.
When we post on the internet, we speak freely because of the relative anonymity. I find that in general I'm fine with strangers posting comments if they want (they don't do it very often so I don't have to panic) and I'm always open to making new friends. If someone wants to know who I am, I don't mind telling them. If someone is going to hang me, though, I really like knowing the reason why.
So if someone tells me I'm a bit full of myself, I'm okay. If they tell me I can't spell at all, they're liars. If they tell me they hate me, and I have to idea who they are - then I freak out.
Sorry, I'm rambling.
Anyway. Everyone makes assumptions to help them to deal with the flood of information that comes in. I remember learning something to that effect in MNO1001. It is not a bad thing if you are aware of them and try to deal with them such that you minimise the effect on your perception and judgement.
And I guess everyone needs to have someone to make the evil villian in their lives. If they want to be the hero of the story - and who wants to be a supporting actor in your own life? (This is assuming that movies and novels are a bit like real life - a bunch are really good, and don't need the ordinary tools to be interesting, and all the rest just play it safe - have love, cute people, and foes and friends...)
So I guess its okay if I'm being used that way by someone else (I am not saying I am or am not! I'm just writing down my thoughts.)
I just can't help wondering about that. Am I a villain archetype? Because I really do not want to be evil and would like to change if I am... quiz said I should look out for stuff to improve. But I need concrete goals. So don't just tell me to quit being a *cough* piece of crap, because I can't change when I don't know what makes me crap.
(Most people think I'm pretty okay though. I'm generally one of the buddies or just an extra. But there's always sth to be improved, right?)
Love,
Eve.
Yet another ring on the tree at5:29 PM
1 Comments:
Archetypes'r'us. Archetypes are aspects of your own personality, at different times.
No one is a hero/ine all the time, and when you re one or the other at any one time, the others are still around, as guiding forces, and inner voices. Haven't you ever wondered why your conscience sounds different?
